How phones are ruining relationships/society..

One doesn’t need anyone around, when you have a smart phone.

Where relationships are maintained with texts, arguments are solved on phone, feelings are depicted through status update, when social sites are swiped just to kill time. Think how difficult it’s becoming to maintain healthy relationships.

Sitting together on the dinning table, where you will not find a single person in conversation but scrolling on phones, especially the younger generation.

From getting up in the morning, till the time you go off to sleep your hands are fixed with smart phones.

After a hectic day, I sit back on my chair, closed my eyes and relaxed.

And than what I do, I  scrolled down my phone and what I see, another negative news.

(Gone are the days when I peacefully relaxed)

I jumped over my bed, after a tiring day.

What than, popped into my phone and watched something in YouTube.

(I forgot, how much I enjoyed the hot shower after such tiring day.)

I went to the bar with my friends to hangout after a long time.

Than what, I glanced at my phone and saw one of my colleague have resigned.

(Gone are those days when there was a balance between the professional and personal life.)

Went for a nature walk, to spend some time with self.

Dam the precious time was overpowered by the smart phone as I was scrolling the social sites without reason.

(Gone are the days of self rejuvenation.)

Enjoy reading book when I go to cafe for a cup of coffee.

But than, I am sitting back and smiling alone on WhatsApp chats and video.

(How technology have made our lives easy. Isn’t it?)

Have any one of you realised that an alarming situation have araised. Where suicides, homicide and depression are increasing a lot day by day due to increase usage of phone and ipad. Where parents truly have to intervene children and have to control the access of social media and phones at young age.

Limit yourself and of your children in the usage of phones. If the action is not taken immediately we are truly hampering our growth and leading ourselves to the destruction.


91 thoughts on “How phones are ruining relationships/society..

  1. Awesome Post! So true and so powerful. I heard a quote recently — we are bartering our consciousness to unconscious machines…..there is something so beautiful about breathing the same air together, feeling water, the touch of another’s hands, a hug, a smile on a face in real time – a human connection. Thank YOU so much for putting it across so well.

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  2. great post. I am of an older generation, I do not use a smartphone. My relationships are eye to eye, heart to heart. That is my way of survival, my nieces and nephews think I am a dinosaur or something. That’s cool too, but when they are with me, they get me. Life does not need transistors and algorithms to give speed to what takes time to appreciate. Peace and love.

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  3. I am not that addicted. The internet in my phone is usually off during the day. However, when there is somthing going on in my familly of in the country (like these days in Algeria) and I don’t like it all, is there was no waiting for spécific news or check the fake ones, I would not scroll down my phone, I usually use the WIFI to connect once I am at home, alone 😉

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  4. Very true, nowadays we don’t even know our neighbors but only whatsapp contacts. I am not in Facebook or not much active in whatsapp but sometimes I used to see YouTube just for some songs but unnecessary negative news pop-up their that will totally ruin our thoughts. Social media is making like only negative things are happening around. Love the way you put them in words.

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      1. I knew people who believe they’re more knowledgeable than people around them because they are active in Facebook. While seeing some comments or memes in YouTube I remember an Einstein quote that says ‘when technology overcomes human communication I fear we have generation of idiots’ truly that’s what happening. But still there are people like you who spreads positivity, let’s hope for the best.

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  5. Waqayee ye bahut hi chinta janak baat hai……..ham karib rahkar bhi karib nahi hai…… vikash ne hamen suvidha diya magar rishton se kaaphi dur kar diya………kisi ko kisi se matlab nahi…………pahle akelaa chalte insaan ko muskurate yaa rote dekh ham paagal samajh lete they…….
    ab to saath men bhi baithaa insaan binaa baat ke muskuraataa hai…….
    paas rahkar bhi wo kitna dur najar aataa hai.

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  6. Sad truth that smart phones are degrading our personal lives….
    I experience that where i go for a walk to get some fresh air and end up scrolling social sites for no reason….
    One way technology is a boon and other way it makes me rethink that our childhood was better than what we have now..

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  7. Well caught! Clean sweep, I would say!! 👏

    I feel it’s lawful! We get into anything lower downwards forces by default! Till we put effort to develop attraction towards higher upward … like relationships, love ❤️, life, compassion, nature, music 🎼, Wonder et al!

    I wonder where do I put blogging!! Zapped… trapped!

    Nobody is perfect. I am nobody!!

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  8. A fantastic observation and you have educated us so well, Tanvir. Krishnapriya too has written this post so well being inspired by you. We are losing touch with nature and with relationships and who knows what will happen. Every person you see is completely hooked with their mobiles. Thanks for this great share.

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  9. This is so true! People don’t even know how to communicate any more or how to make eye contact because they are so used to texting or typing on social media. Colossians 3:12-14 mentions the importance of showing love, compassion and kindness. It’s hard to do that via text. When we relearn how to truly communicate with one another we’ll be a much more loving society.

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  10. This is the truth. It’s soooo hard nowadays to stay away from our phones, especially for an extended period of time. I was just talking to a friend about how social media has been destroying the organic growth of relationships. There is something unique about face-to-face communication that cannot be replaced with FaceTime, texts, or other virtual means. Thanks so much for sharing this! ❤

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  11. It’s interesting to Note that when we think we have it all figured out, we’re at the beginning of all that is to be learned. And when we can’t find anymore of what is to be learned to pass on, we have it all figured out. And by that time we’re in the process of letting it go and moving on. Blessings…

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      1. The relationship with social media comes from where we value; what we value the most. So for most young people their value is held in how they are seen in this world (seen, heard, understood, and acknowledged), and this great perception today is revealed online. My generation’s valued perceptions come from our active abilities; what we can do.
        Suicide is a great need for change, and the inability to capture that goal. We are taught about how the world works from our immediate family from age 0 to 13, then from our piers beyond that. And if neither one comes from a hint of balance for that demonstration, then one’s life path may appear crooked. This design can only be restructured by the individual, and as those numbers climb the social network will also change.

        My observation of positive change comes from forgiveness; “forgiveness without judgement”. The online social media is knowingly created to be an addiction, so as this information comes to light instead of crucifying those involved, we forgive them. Judgement holds us stuck in the pattern of being angry. Forgiveness allows us the freedom to release the hurt without forgetting.
        My blessings to you…

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  12. PREACHHHHH!! I’ve been wanting to point this out for a while but I need to work on myself first before advising others. It’s definitely tricky nowadays especially since I’ve moved many times and there’s no other way to contact friends from the other countries without texting. Phones give you happiness sometimes but that feeling is temporary and eventually it will affect everything in the long term. Great post!

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  13. Great post! I had a conversation with my sister yesterday about how much time my nephew spends on his tab. We really need to do better and try to keep our phones at bay. I’ve been spending less time on my phone since the screentime feature on the iPhone was introduced.

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  14. I tell my boyfriend all the time that I won’t talk to him unless he isn’t on his phone. We don’t use social media which I like. I know that with my anxiety, having our relationship on FB would make things difficult for me. I always have my phone away and on silent when I am with him so I can focus on our time together

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  15. Thank you for this. I must agree, everyone should be mindful of the present. Time goes by quickly, it’s important to enjoy our moments with each other. Great insight here!

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  16. Aw… it’s good to know the negative effects, but there are some great positive advances too. Interesting question would be around when the first SMS message phones came out, then realizing how rapidly people start telling lies, making excuses and being more late… this is a double edged sword – thanks for the post!

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