Raising children with a thought that when parents get old, they can redeem their children from their savings, who would look after them in their old age. Upbringing your children as an asset, “How far is it correct”?
Forgetting the fact that children come through you and not from you. Upbringing children as your future investment will only lead to certain consequences with heavy price to be paid.
Is it correct to up bring your child in such a manner that he always remains dependent on you, in some way or the other?
We often learn and teach to our loved ones that don’t be attached with surroundings, as it only creates pain in your life. Then “Why you want your children to be attached with you”?
When you are planning to have a child or already have make sure:
- To have a better world, liberate your child from the prison of expectations and future investments.
- Your effort as parents should be improvising your child one step better than you.
- Be straight in dealings with your children. Even if it puts you in an awkward situation.
- Dealing with your children comes in different stages. Till the age of 12 teach them values, watch and correct adequately where they make mistakes and move patiently with them so that they can grow. As they enter the teen age, become their friend and walk with them along to make them balance with their thoughts. With time techniques of upbringing child changes. What makes a difference is how well have you prepared yourself as a parent.
It’s important to maintain a healthy relationship with your children. Make sure you make a balance relationship as a friend and as a parent with your child, rather than just acting like boss with them. As you think they are the only ones who can tolerate your bossy act. But forgetting you are drifting your child away like this.
You as a person too is not perfect. When you start treating your children as a person and not as your child, they will start respecting you. Children will understand you, as you have treated them as friend, listened them and agreed to trust their decisions. Surely, they are going to listen to your advice as you have changed the method of expression. Before raising your child, raise yourself as a person, it will reflect on your behavior. As children learn lots of things through observation. Hence, this observation makes a huge difference in the growth of a child. Now as a parent it depends upon you, how you impart it.
Though there is no guarantee how things turn, as life too gives you no guarantee.
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