Every parent loves their children but in course of bestowing love to their children they forget to distinguish the word pamper with love.
While pampering (in the name of love ) your child, you forgot that you are making your child weak and handicap, as children tend to believe that all their work is going to be done by others.
While upbringing your children it’s very important to draw a line on the amount of love given to your children.
Now days parents have made the life of children so easy and comfortable that they fail to adjust themselves in tougher conditions, as they get all the luxurious things easily.
When children face the tough situations in society they tend to react negativity with the society as they believe that the whole world is supposed to say yes, as they are not habitual of hearing no. And therefore an unhealthy atmosphere is created by children.
Have parents ever thought how harmful pampering can be. While loving your children you have forgotten to taught them the value of things in life. Hence, they themselves are responsible for spoiling their children.
On asking parents, why have they made the life of their children so easy, here are the few reasons that came in front:
- Parents tend to provide things in life which they have missed in their childhood.
- Often parents don’t won’t their children to face difficult times, what they have faced when they were young.
- People are so much occupied in today’s lifestyle that they have forgotten the importance of giving time to their family , hence being occupied in busy life parents tend to shower the luxurious life easily.
- At times parents simply say if we have the amenities to provide than what’s the harm in giving it to them.
Reading above points I don’t agree with any of the them. Give a thought to the following points :
- As a parent have you ever given a thought that when your child grows up will he/she be able to handle the privileges given by you.
- How well competent you are making your child, in the name of love showered by you. Haven’t you darkened the future of your child.
- Today what you are it’s just because your parents have made you value things in life. Than why now you as a parent are doing injustice with your child just in the name of love.
- You as a parent haven’t made the balance between the responsibility and privileges in the house and when your child grows, you just expect them to be independent, understand and value things of life. Where for them life becomes a Jurassic park, finding themselves alone and new to the whole world as you have always protected them from the reality of life.
Make sure you give responsibilities to your children from very early age and make sure the privileges given to them are conditional. Give them the taste of bitter life from the beginning so that they are able to understand that getting things in life is not easy, they have earn it.
Also when you are providing joy to your children make sure you teach them to be grateful for what they are receiving. Otherwise your child will become selfish.
Let your children experience things in life. Listen to what they say and also let them find solutions for the things they face in life. As if today you given them shelter and don’t let them do it on their own, than later on they will never be able to rescue themselves from the problems in life, remember every time you may not be there to sort things for them.
Most important of all don’t be afraid of your children anger and tantrums. Learn how to control the negative behaviour of your child. If you really want to love your child , love by giving time to them and make beautiful memories with them and not just by buying the joy with the things needed by your children. Pamper with your time, love and care and not by spoiling them.
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