Beliefs and perception

People may take your goodness for granted.

Often people feel that their goodness is taken for granted by their relatives, friends, or by their loved ones. Have you ever realised what are the repercussions of this. Even when you know and still allow any one to take advantage of your goodness is not something to be proud of. That’s my belief.

It may sound a little bitter to hear but those taking you for granted may hurt you genuinely at times, they may not take care of your feelings as you yourself have never complained  and have been fine in every situation.

“Why I say it’s your mistake?” Because you  have given too much importance to the feelings of the people who are attached to your life.

It’s very important to understand and find reasons when people are taking advantage of your goodness.

  • You love them: often in relationships whom we love we take things for granted. Knowing the fact that the person will not feel bad. I suppose sometimes one should express where they felt bad so that it doesn’t created conflict in a relationship.
  • They rule your life: often you allow people to take advantage of your goodness because they are the reason for you to smile and you become weak in front of them. You forget your needs in life and start living life the way your loved ones want.
  • You are adjusting: being adjusting in life is not bad but because of this nature when you keep others first while taking decisions, people will definitely take advantage as they know you will not harm them in any way. Hence, at times it becomes easy to play with your emotions.

Loving someone unconditionally is not bad but when it’s taken for granted, at some point it becomes a little problem. As it not only affects your emotions but also affects the self-confidence of the people whom you love. As they are totally dependent on you and may often hesitate to take Independent decisions in life.

Sometimes when your love is taken for granted, it fails to make people realise what difficulties they are facing to make their loved ones smile. Hence,those receiving love doesn’t value the kindness, love and care of the one’s who bestow it as they feel that’s their moral duty to do.

Loving someone unconditionally is something beyond expressions but when the loved ones misunderstand the love given than it becomes a matter of concern.

“The most painful thing in life is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.” – Ernest Heminway

36 thoughts on “People may take your goodness for granted.

  1. This is a strong thought to reach every relationship, Being a human we fall for relationships, Love – a reason for so many big kingdoms fall. Even though we saw so many history we human still fall far relationship in doing so they lose themselves, People must read, as even i don’t believe on such things when people start taking things for granted i’ll just avoid such people in my life, may be a reason why i don’t have friends till date. Great thought! – Have a beautiful day! ๐Ÿ˜‰ ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. Hi Tanvir,

      I would like to echo the words of Simon. Both of you have made some very good observations.

      Whether given unconditionally or not, love, like many things in life, needs to be well-balanced and nuanced. By the way, I love the pink diamond at the start of your post.

      Please be informed that my blog will benefit from being viewed on a large screen of a desktop or laptop computer, because many of the multimedia posts published on my blog could be too powerful and feature-rich for iPad, iPhone, tablet or other portable devices to handle properly or adequately.

      May you and Simon have a very lovely Sunday and happy February to you!

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  2. Profound thought by Ernest Hemingway. He has said it so beautifully. We are our own individuals first and why get and spoil ourselves with someone’s else’s opinions and judgement. You have rightly said, Tanvir it is nice to be giving and loving but at the same time we need to learn who we are and learn to not give in. An inspiring post.

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  3. Very True. I know the feeling by going out of my way and going out of my way and doing things for others. Since recently I have begun to safe guard myself. Hope you are feeling much better these days โค

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