If the child is born at an early stage of 3 to 4 years of marriage, approximately 2/3rd of the couples find difficult to handle the new life and their quality of relationship starts declining.
Let’s understand it in a way of story:
There was a couple who had dreamt for a child for so long and when their child was born, both husband and wife thought that they have become the happiest family in the world. Both husband and wife were ready to face the new challenges of the life. But slowly the husband started loosing patience. The cry of the child at night made the husband irritated as he couldn’t sleep and keep cribbing to his wife that he have to go to the office in the morning.
The husband annoyance compelled him to sleep in another room. Soon he started to work late in the office. Avoided his wife phone calls. He failed to understand his responsiblity towards the child as a father. He failed to understand how tired his wife must be. How badly she must be needing the change and rest. But instead of helping his wife on weekends, he started spending time with his friends.
Every day the wife hoped that it would get easier soon. They would be like a family again but the husband had something else in mind. He made a different decision. He said sorry, a child takes a whole lot of energy and I have to pay more time in building up my career. So the time and attention what a child needed from his father was not given. With the period of time the wife did everything what she could do best for her child. She never gave up for the sake of her child. As the child grew, mother and the child coped up with all the difficulties. When one day husband comes with a bouquet and says how much he missed her, but she refuses to acknowledge him.
A child is a challenge for a family. If you think you are not ready for the responsibility till a particular period of time than don’t take it. Because a person who ran from the responsibilities and difficulties once, will definitely do so again.
It’s very important for the partners to communicate and sort the things among themselves before having a child. One should discuss the responsibilities that they have to face without avoiding and division of work too. Because have often seen, maximum responsibilities come upon the mother, especially when the child is a toddler. Each stage is difficult but the matter is how you manage.