Perception is a belief or opinion often made from what people may think or how it may seem. There are things that we know and things that we are unaware of and in between are the doors of perception. Now its upto us how we want to preceive. Making an opinion on what you personally see or experience is always positive than what you belief through grapevine communication.
One of the common problem prevailing since history is the perception of thoughts between men and women. Both the gender claims not to understand each other, which can be due to culture differences but most importantly physical and psychological differences. Since the men and women see things differently on various issues so thats one of the reason of frustation that arises between them.
The purpose of this post is not to decide who is superior than whom nor about equality. The purpose is to know why there is existence of desparities in thoughts and the clash of ego comes. Where ultimately we know it's going hamper only individuals growth and the unnecessary differences between both. I suppose that we see.
We are surpressed with double standards of thoughts between male and female. Being human all have right to be treated equally!! Here are few double standard points where women have expressed their thoughts.
- Dress Code :
Often they are debates about the outfits of women. often we see and read about the arguements and suggestions on what women should wear but for men the rules are just on sticky notes. As long as men is covering his naughty bites, his wardrobe is acceptable but for women many preceptions are raised. If she wears revealing clothes than she is considered easy, if she is dressed modestly than she is considered prude. In any way she is made sandwich in so called preceptions of the society. Have ever anyone thought how difficult the society have her life in these unrequired thoughts. Problems are raised more before she have raised her voice and asked a logical question ,'Why she is always a target' ?
I being woman can only say for herself that I am not carrying a label to justify my outfits. If you have a problem than please educate yourself and come out as a true Gentlemen.
- Behaviour Justification:
Being Men or Women one thing is commen, mood swing problem but a women face more of such problems because of the harmonal changesthat take place at every stage of her life. If boys behave rudely which at times is not required but due to mood problems which parents understand but how easily they are escaped by saying 'boys will boys' hence pumping their behaviour when actually it will not stand in the explaination bracket. But women get away with nasty comments in such siuations. Why?
Why change in her behaviour is not understood and shes is often criticised, hence leading to may health issues.
- Household Duties:
Logically, if we look over the household work, it's the duty of partners together to look over the household work and earning portion to make balance and reduce the pressure of work but still maximum number of times a woman is expected to do entire household work on her own. Men at times do get rest after 8 hours job but a women's work is never ending. From early moring sending husband and children to office and school respectively to cleaning of house and washing clothes and cooking food. I suppose the work needs to be divided. If she is doing laundry then husband put children to bed etc. This will help in giving free time to do something together.
In perceptions people see what they want to see and what people want to see never has anything to do with the true!!
It's not only about the gender bias but in every thought the people perceive according to their comfort zone. Therefore I have stopped explaining myself or to others because I have realised people will understand only from their point of view.
In the course of life and what experience I have gained have learned few things and few I was very clear from mind that:
- Do not judge the people in advance before knowing them properly yourself but not on the grounds what people say.
- It's not necessary if few group of people have certain kind of negative behaviour than the entire community is wrong.
- Don't make your decisions on half listen story.
- If you don't know me that you have no right to give your opinion because all have their own experiences based on their circumstances.
- I am responsible for what I say but I am not responsible for what you understand.
How people treat other people is a direct reflection of how they feel about themselves.
In life to be happy one must not involve or show interest in the life of the neighborhood because if others start showing interest in your story than you will have more problems with bigger reactions.
It's up you whether you can complain roses have thorns or rejoice that thorns have roses.